Thursday, April 15, 2010

Where's the Fire...?

I have been meaning to write this post for the longest time, but I have been so busy with school. I have this beautiful 1700-word paper to write about cultural differences and culture shock. Too much information, not enough drive to write. I'm seriously hoping that the paper will write won't? No? *Sigh* I will get back to it soon...UGH!!

Anyway, I digress.

I don't know if it's just me, but over the past few years people have been getting engaged/married at the drop of a hat. Yes, we are at that age...but does that mean we must marry by force?

I know of so many people (and I have heard so many stories) who dated for the usual two and a half years (sometimes more), got engaged, and got married...................................................then divorced two years later. And you wonder where they went wrong. There are women who are surrounded by friends who are engaged, and they feel that they must be next. So they start hinting to their boyfriends that marriage is the next step. The guy feels the pressure, you finally marry, and then three months into it, there are problems. Can I just ask you a question: where is the fire?

Seriously, what is the rush? Just because you are at that age, doesn't mean that is your time.

Don't get me wrong there are some people who have met "the one", and are blessed to spend the rest of their lives with them. But what if you THINK he's "the one"? Are you willing to compromise with some of his faults, some faults that you KNOW on a normal day you can't take?

I am all for marriage, but I am also all for TAKING MY TIME, PRAYER and LEARNING FROM OTHERS. Prayer is definitely the most important thing because if God has not spoken to you and given you some kind of confirmation (whether it's through family or friends), then I don't know what you are doing walking down the aisle with that person.

One thing that I am learning over time is that if I don't look out for myself, who will? I will not sacrifice my happiness just so I can be part of a trend. Why be part of a crowd when you can stand out right? Take your time, there's nothing wrong with that. And also, for my Bible readers, marriage is not for everyone (and the single life is not for everyone either). Know your purpose.

Bear in mind, this is my opinion, so if you disagree, that's what leaving comments is for. Be an adult and just say how you feel.


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